I have a friend, won’t mention the name of this friend but, for as long as I’ve known her she’s been to herself and for the most part not the most pleasant person to deal with if you don’t really know her and she doesn’t really know you.

Over time we kind of drifted I got married, she had three kids, i mean we just got busy with life. Then facebook got created and of course we reconnected. But, I see things have not changed. Matter of fact things have only gotten worse. It’s like NONE of her statuses are positive in any way shape or form. And for a minute there i found myself doing that on my statuses. I would complain about people in general. But i realized that I was just promoting negativity and not helping not one single person. And really that is the same thing she is doing. She just seems overly bitter with life. Overly focused on the flaws and imperfections of others not realizing that she herself has just as many flaws as the rest of us. 

In a way I feel sorry for her because it has to be an exhausted an stressful life to sit and just constantly complain about the things people do ALL THE TIME. It’s much easier to focus on the good of people. And if people are so bad, why not be encouraging and motivating to help others be a better person.

I’ve always been a person that LOVES to see people succeed. Granted though people can irritate me but i have to check myself and realize that i can irritate a person  just as much as another can irritate me. How do I know this? Well I can just ask my husband LOL. I’m sure i have irritated him numerous of times.

So what’s my point well my point is simply this. You get out of life what you put in. If you are constantly putting out negative energy with your comments and not going out there finding joy and excitement in life. You are definitely going to have a negative  life. plain and simple. 

Since I’ve changed my outlook on life and just really focused on the success of other people it’s been a whole lot more fulfilling. Being merciful, forgiving, kind and so on and so forth can  go a long way. And not only that it can lesson the stress in your life. I mean have enough stress as it is, Am I right? I mean we go to work, we deal with the kids, we deal with our spouses, and so on and so forth so, I mean why add to it? If anything a person would want to minimize the stress, am i correct? 

One way that I am able to be more patient and kind and understanding and not so judgmental is by reading my bible. You know God was kind and merciful and patient, and still is with ALOT of people in the bible. So imitating him and applying the principles found in the scriptures is a great way to make those changes and be a better you.